Balanced Parenting for Kids: Becoming parents is the most beautiful dream in the world. But with this beautiful dream comes the challenges of parenting. All parents want to give their children a happy, safe and good future, but many times parents make mistakes in this. Parents make this mistake in parenting by obeying everything their children say or not obeying them at all. Both these methods of parenting are wrong for children. Let us know in this article how it is wrong for children to accept everything or not to accept it at all and what effect it has on the child.

Why is it wrong to accept everything from children?

Many parents agree to everything out of love for their children or to avoid the child’s stubbornness. This kind of upbringing is dangerous for the future of children.

Child doesn’t like to hear ‘no’: When parents immediately accept everything of their children. If his every demand is fulfilled immediately, then the child does not learn qualities like waiting, patience or hard work, which is dangerous for his future. If children hear ‘no’ in the future, they may become victims of stress, fear and anger.

Lack of discipline: Obeying everything the children say can make the child undisciplined, stubborn and moody. Whose bad effect is seen on his studies, behavior and health.

Emotionally weak: Because children get everything easily, they do not develop the ability to handle failure.

Being selfish: Children may develop a selfish nature due to their parents obeying everything. He considers others unimportant.

How is it wrong not to listen to children?

Feeling distant towards parents: When parents say no to their children every time, they feel unheard. The child feels that his parents do not care about him. They don’t love him. This kind of feeling starts developing in the mind of children and they start creating distance from their parents. He also stops sharing his thoughts.

Lack of confidence: Refusing, misunderstanding or ignoring everything that children say destroys their self-confidence. In this situation the child is either completely rebellious or of a submissive nature.

The child does not know how to take decisions on his own: When children are blamed all the time by their parents, the child becomes afraid to take even small decisions.

right parenting style

Obeying everything the children say or not obeying them at all are examples of completely wrong parenting. Whereas correct parenting means listening to the child with balance, understanding and then taking the right decision. For example, if the child says ‘I want to play a little more’, in this situation if the parents say ‘Okay, you can play as long as you want’, or say ‘No, absolutely not now, come inside immediately’, both these situations are absolutely yes and no and both are wrong. The right way to tell children should be ‘Okay, you can play for the last 15 minutes but after that we will do homework’.

In which situations children must be obeyed: When the child is scared, sad or wants a little freedom. The child may be insisting on learning something new. If the child is able to explain his thoughts to you, if his logic is correct and safe, then you should listen to the child.

In which situations children should not be listened to: The child may be saying something in anger or stubbornness. If the child’s demand is not safe or unreasonable. If obeying your child is breaking his discipline or increasing his dependence on you, then do not listen to him.