How to Handle Teenagers: 13 years, it is not just an age but a transition phase of children. In which the child enters adolescence. Parents often notice many changes in children at this age. For example, the child has become more stubborn than before, does not listen to things, acts arbitrary etc. After all, what happens at this age that causes so much change in the child? Let us know in this article. You will also know how parents should handle children of this age.

Major changes in adolescence

A lot of mental and hormonal changes take place in children between the ages of 13 to 19. Which affects the mental and physical development of children.

Development of brain: The prefrontal cortex of the brain of children of this age, which performs the functions of thinking, understanding, reasoning and reasoning, slows down. Whereas the amygdala, which is the part of the brain that controls emotions, develops rapidly. This is the reason why feelings of fear, anger and stubbornness increase in children at this age. Along with this, the feeling of ego increases in them like ‘I am absolutely right’.

Hormonal changes: The levels of estrogen, testosterone and growth hormone change rapidly in children during adolescence. Whose effect is seen on both their mood and behaviour.

Social Change: At this age the child easily gets influenced by what his friends say. The child starts feeling the pressure to show himself good and intelligent. This is the reason that in his insistence on creating his own identity, he often falls into bad company or addiction.

Search for Freedom: At this age the child starts considering himself elder and he also wants to be heard. His or her words should be considered important. If this does not happen the child becomes stubborn.

What should parents do and what not to do?

What parents should not do: Don’t try to control the child all the time like ‘don’t do this, don’t say that’. The child sees this as an attack on his ego, and as a result he may become more stubborn.

‘Why don’t you become like him’ This kind of comparative behavior of parents weakens children emotionally.

‘You always make mistakes, you can never do anything good’, this kind of scolding of the child increases his stubbornness.

What should parents do: When the child is angry or stubborn, keep yourself calm instead of scolding or trying to understand. Talk to him when his anger subsides. Don’t know why he is insisting.

Understand his feelings instead of saying no.

Let him do his small tasks himself. Instead of giving orders all the time, give options that you can do this or that.

Take care of children’s personal space. Make a time table with your children. Why is it important to control screen time? While explaining this, gradually control him.