There’s a moment in everyone’s life when you realise, you’ve handed someone else the keys to your peace. You wait for their message to feel seen. Their approval to feel enough. Their presence to feel alive. And when they withdraw, you crumble. But the Bhagavad Gita, in its quiet, piercing wisdom, says something that can change everything: your happiness is not something you receive, it’s something you remember. The Gita doesn’t tell you to stop loving people. It tells you to stop losing yourself in them. To find a balance where love becomes strength, not dependency. And that begins with reclaiming your own centre.



Fill Your Own Cup First

Nourish yourself first; self-care is sacred self-respect.

Because an empty soul cannot pour light into anyone else. Do your nails, hit the gym, do your skincare, not for validation, but as an act of self-respect. Look beautiful for yourself, not because someone is watching, but because you are worthy of witnessing your own glow. Eat clean, journal your chaos, sit in silence. These may seem like simple acts, but they are rituals of remembrance, that you are whole, even when no one claps for you.

The Gita calls it samatva, balance. Your outer rituals, when rooted in self-awareness, slowly fill your inner reservoir of peace. One whose happiness is within, whose delight is within, and whose light is within, that yogi attains eternal bliss. You’re being guided: don’t outsource your joy. Own it. Because when someone else becomes the supplier of your joy, you end up handing them your power.



Stop Making Others Responsible for Your Emptiness

Own your healing; stop outsourcing peace to others.

When you make someone else the reason for your happiness, you unknowingly hand them the power to break you. And worse, you burden them with the impossible task of healing the wounds they didn’t cause. Your abandonment issues, attachment patterns, overthinking, they are yours to understand, not theirs to fix. Healing is not a one-time event; it’s a daily choice. A discipline. A devotion to peace.

When you take accountability for your own pain, you stop blaming others for not being your cure. That’s the day you start walking toward freedom. O Arjuna, that person who is steady in happiness and distress alike, who remains unshaken, becomes eligible for liberation. When you start owning your healing:


You loosen the chains of codependency.
You stop expecting someone else’s stability to shore up your tremors.
You turn from “Will they?” to “I will.”
And that shift is seismic.


Stop Chasing Anything That Pulls You Away from Your Centre

Anchor within; reclaim energy from external validation.

Energy is fluid. What you chase expands. If you chase someone else’s rhythm, someone else’s attention, someone else’s reaction, you become peripheral to your own life. You dissipate your power. The Gita’s wisdom again: the more you anchor in your own self, the less you’re moved by external ripples. You start orbiting others instead of standing in your own gravity. The Gita calls this yoga, act from your centre, not your craving. Your only real task is to protect your energy and redirect it toward your own evolution. Every time you feel yourself running after someone’s love or approval, pause. Breathe. And whisper to yourself, take your power back.

The peace you are searching for in someone’s arms is already inside you, waiting to be remembered. Take your power back. Every. Single. Time you feel it slipping.



True Happiness Comes From Serving Your Purpose

Find joy through purpose, not approval or desire.

When happiness becomes about serving rather than getting, everything shifts. You begin to give back to the source, your own inner self, your dharma, your reason for being. The Gita lays this out via the modes of happiness, only the happiness born of self-knowledge and purpose lasts. Not from being loved, but from being useful. Not from being desired, but from being aligned. When you believe in abundance, when you believe you’re not just a receiver but a contributor, you step into a flow of blessings, satisfaction, deep contentment. The more you give, the more abundant you become.

Because joy multiplies not when you receive, but when you return energy to where it came from. So yes: look after yourself. Glow for yourself. Heal for yourself. Align for yourself. But then, push beyond: serve your purpose so your happiness radiates outward. That’s how you shift from needing love to becoming love.



In the end

Happiness isn’t found in someone’s eyes, it’s built in the silence of your own alignment. The day you stop seeking someone to complete you, you begin to meet the version of yourself that’s been waiting, calm, grounded, radiant. Because as the Gita reminds us, the soul is already full, we just keep forgetting to drink from it.

And when you flip from what can I get to what can I give… you align with a happiness so deep, no external storm can shake it. As the Gita whispers across millennia: the joy you seek is not in the world. it is you.